Platonic?

Is it possible for a man and a woman to be just friends?

Some people say "yes" while others say "no".

I was asked today by a relative where all the girls were on my facebook page (I live 3 hours away from family so I tend to talk to them through this page) and that's what got me thinking about the subject. He said it jokingly but there was some truth in his words. Where are all of my girl friends?

I have MANY MANY MANY guy friends. As a matter of fact, most of my friends are guys. I don't like the drama that comes attached to some girls I know. I grew up with boy cousins, there being a 10 year age gap between me and the next oldest girl, and let's face it at 10 you don't want to play around your 8 year old sister and younger girl cousins. I was and still am a tom boy. If I wasn't I wouldn't be able to wrestle as well as I do. I think that as long as the lines are CLEARLY drawn and understood by both parties, it's possible to have a platonic relationship.

Growing up, my best friends were 2 guys, both I am still to this day friends with. I drove across the state recently so one could meet my son. The other is farther away than a car ride away. I didn't ever have a crush on either of them (not that they weren't handsome). I met my husband at a young age, we were high school sweethearts. I joke and say all other men fell off the face of the Earth when I met him. But there's some truth in that statement. When I became committed to my husband (way before marriage) it's like my eyes closed off to men. You were no longer assigned a gender, you were just a person. I know that sounds bad, but because I was no longer looking for a guy, I wasn't looking for another guy.


My thoughts: Hang out with a person because of their personality. You should have enough trust in yourself to not look at them in any other way than a friend. If you find yourself admiring them, maybe it's time to step back from the relationship and reevaluate yourself. Your significant other places this trust in you as well. Have fun, relax and play but make sure you stay in bounds of your faith, trust and spouse/relationship.